On fear, letting go, and taking care (aka Fresh Boobs a comin!) - When I Grow Up

On fear, letting go, and taking care (aka Fresh Boobs a comin!) - When I Grow Up Always Remember by Dazey Chic On Wednesday of this week, Ill be going in for my Fresh Boobs (which is what Luke calls my bilateral mastectomy + reconstruction surgery). It was supposed to be on May 30th, but I got a call last week that said, Were moving it up! I didnt even know that could happen, but I did the rescheduling dance with some calls and clients, cleared my schedule almost completely, and freaked a bit about How Much There Is To Do and All The Loose Ends That Need To Be Tied Up. But really? After coordinating with my Virtual Wizard, Arwyn whos taking over loading blog posts and newsletter content, thankyoubabyJesus I took a look at What Had To Get Done and, really, its writing newsletters and blog posts in advance. And when I look at it from afar, if there are 2 blog posts that go up one week instead of 3, will it  really matter? And if I miss a week with the newsletterwill I have to go back to Corporate America? No. No I wont. Whats important, then? Taking care. Letting go. Getting better. Feeling good. Trusting my support system. Over the next few weeks, thats my main job. I wont lie about being really scared of this huge surgery Im having (Ill be under for something like 4 hours) enough so that Ive had to take anti-anxiety meds to fall asleep lately and all the pain I figure Im gonna be in (enough that theyre gonna give me an epidural pre-surgery to keep it at a minimum when I wake up. Blech!). As you might imagine, Im not so great with being the patient, or feeling out of control, or, um, having a high threshold for pain (which is why the tattoo Ive wanted since I was 16 has yet to grace my body)so this is Big Time Scary, you guys. And no, I dont have it in me to write a ukulele song about it (yet). Ive scheduled my blog content for when I come back, and its all about making the most of a slow time, finding (and enforcing!) your boundaries, asking for (and accepting!) helpdo we sense a theme here? These are the things I know Im gonna (begrudgingly) learn, and I have a feeling theres gonna be a new perspective here once I feel well enough to tear myself away from 12-hour marathons of  Friday Night Lights on my Kindle Fire in bed. If youre wondering how Im doing during/after surgery, my lovely husband will have my phone to Facebook/tweet how Im holding up. You can follow me on Twitter here and Like my Facebook page here to get the latest. So, Ill see ya on the flip side, but make sure you continue to come back regularly since I have a half-dozen amazeballs guest bloggers my regular features all ready for ya as per usual.  See? Im making sure to take care of you now, so I can take care of me later. Im already learning, begrudgingly or not.

The Nuiances of To Resume

The Nuiances of To Resume The Fundamentals of to Resume Revealed Utilizing a resume template is now an acceptable and smart practice for several factors. Understanding how to tailor your resume will obviously offer you an advantage. Together with describing your professional background and degree of expertise, your resume is the ideal location to highlight your abilities. Once you've reviewed resumes in your field, peruse resumes across fields to learn how to vary using action verbs and receive a feel for what makes a highly effective accomplishment statement. You should wow an expected employer by displaying your top qualification or accomplishment here. What you exclude is at least as critical as what you include. Additionally, you can comprise skills which were used at a specific job position in a particular period and don't neglect to mention your scholarship on resume. There are a lot of standard forms of resumes used to make an application for job openings. The Ult imate To Resume Trick As with other creative resumes, it isn't meant for the majority of employers, so you might want to get a traditionally formatted resume on hand to complement it. The MBA InterviewLaboffers step-by-step guidance on the best way to answer all the very best questions you're very likely to face in the interview. Resumes could be organized in various ways. Creative While it's important to get a professional resume, sometimes just a little creativity and innovation is suitable. The new kind of jobs give them with the power of driving own career to success with no help. Keeping your resume updated is also a wonderful method to chart your private growth. Writing a resume for employment in the art industry can be difficult. Your resume is intended to clearly show your experience pertinent to the job which you're applying for. You simply have to demonstrate how each job has prepared you for the job which you desire. Each time you apply to get a new job, check your resume to make sure that it isn't only targeted, but in addition current. Say you're asking for a job for a waiter. An excellent editing job will take a small longerand some particular tactics intended to catch resume errors. However much or what type of work experience you've got, there's a resume format that is likely to make your qualifications shine. The memorable resumes were quite different when it comes to experience, educational background, and individual interests. In the long run, everything on your resume must contribute to its highest relevancy and readability. The Benefits of to Resume Suppose you've completed all the above mentioned. Resumes may be used for a number of reasons, but most often they're utilised to secure new employment. Federal jobs often need you to have experience in a special type of work for some period of time. Transportation jobs involve plenty of responsibility and your resume will want to reflect you can deal with that.

The Dangerous Minefield of Modifying Previous Job Titles - Work It Daily

The Dangerous Minefield of Modifying Previous Job Titles - Work It Daily By CAREEREALISM-Approved Expert, Dawn Rasmussen True confession time: Did you ever ‘tweak’ a job title on your résumé because the title you worked under didn’t quite fit the work you were doing? The truth is (and I’ve seen this a lot with clients as a résumé writer), many people have done at least some ‘creative job title engineering’ at some point…the fear of being caught diminishes simply as time has worn on, and as that particular job record slides further back into history, and the inhibitions to keep to the facts sometimes wear off as job seekers try to provide a more accurate snapshot of the work they did. But did you know when you change your actual job title of record to something different on your résumé, it is seen as lying by human resource personnel? Let’s put it this way: If a prospective employer is ready to make an offer and calls one of your former workplace human resource offices, the job title you have on the résumé absolutely better match what is on your personnel record...Don’t fall into the lazy assumption that, “Well, everyone at that company knew I did so much more than that job title â€" I was the glue that held it all together. They’ll roll with it and understand.” Wrong! The person at the end of the line is not going to be as understanding about any job title modifications. And, depending on how long ago your employment was at that company, consider this: Staff may have turned over to the point anyone currently in that position or department might not have ever met you before to even know what you did at a personal level. Changing official job titles a dangerous road to go down and is littered with potential landmines. Resist the urge to take any creative license on your work history. Why? Anything different than what is officially on record is a huge red flag and could lose you a job offer as a result. Your earnestness to convey the actual level of your work can also be misunderstood by a prospective employer as a deliberate attempt to deceive. All is not lost, however. There is a way to get across the FUNCTION of what you did when the job title doesn’t do it justice…and without misrepresenting yourself. A simple solution to this common problem is to provide the information as follows: Actual Job Title of Record (Title equivalent), Month/Year â€" Month/Year Example: Business Development Director (Vice President equivalent), 6/2003â€"7/2009 This way, you are stating the official title you held while conveying the scope and level as an equivalency, but not claiming it. However, there are some exceptions. Sometimes, business owners decide that they want to go work for someone else, and decide to throw their hat into the ring. While keeping to the facts and being honest, it would be a fair thing to say the business owner of a small company has worn many hats in a definitive role- they've been the 'chief cook, bottlewasher, and server.' These business owners run all operations, finance, marketing, human resources, sales, executive, and customer service roles. By conveying their specific job title towards their target job, they can position their experience towards that themed area. A good way to position experience in this situation is as follows: ABC Company Marketing Director / Owner, 6/2003â€"7/2009 By positioning the most desirable and relevant attribute of their business ownership towards the position for which they are applying, but also indicating ownership, they have covered the bases and satisfied role clarifications sought by human resource managers. Another problem I see is some clients will enjoy a steady progression of internal promotions in a company, but when it comes to listing the duration of their career at that particular employer, some people will take their most recent position and include all of the years encompassing their previous positions…under that one job. The fact remains they were not doing that higher level job for the entirety of their career at that company, and stating all those years at that company under a single job is considered lying as well. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve started to delve into client work histories during consultations, only to be interrupted with the client stating that they had several positions at that employer (which were not stated/listed on the résumé). When I press for more details, it turns out that there are multiple positions that break down their work history into separate jobs. Claiming one long stint under one job title is an equally dangerous landmine in the road to a successful job search â€" some human resource managers see it as an attempt to extend the longevity and put more weight / attention onto that higher level position. However, the ironic part is most human resource personnel agree demonstrating career progression by listing those successive promotions is actually more helpful to them by demonstrating your value to the previous employer. Remember, being honest in developing your résumé means you have nothing to explain or defend in an interview. And with the amount of effort that it takes to actually land the attention of an employer these days, why would you want to jeopardize a potential job offer with a mistake (either intentional or unintentional due to laziness or assumptions) way back at the beginning of the job application cycle? Pay attention now, be honest, and never assume anything people will ‘understand.’ Tweet Share | Did you enjoy this article? Read more articles by this expert here. CAREEREALISM Expert, Dawn Rasmussen is the president of Portland, Oregon-based Pathfinder Writing and Careers Services, which specializes in mid- to executive-level professional résumés. She is a frequent professional speaker and writer on career management topics and teaches résumé writing and other job search strategies at several local community colleges and universities. Dawn is also the official “Get the Job” columnist for One+ Magazine, a trade publication distributed to over 26,000 meeting professionals worldwide, and Talentzoo.com, a job site for creative and marketing professionals. She is a frequent professional speaker on career management topics while also volunteering her expertise to help unemployed workers at the Oregon Employment Department with free classes twice a month. CAREEREALISM.com provides the best career advice from proven career experts on a daily basis. How do you find a job today? You get career and job search help from us! Sign-up today to get our updates daily. The photo for this article is provided by Shutterstock. Have you joined our career growth club?Join Us Today!

Its Quality, Not Just Quantity That Gets You Hired -

Its Quality, Not Just Quantity That Gets You Hired -Over the last few years, Ive heard a lot of very intelligent job seekers casually remark that they had sent out hundreds of resumes while looking for a job. These people firmly believed that job searching welches entirely a numbers game, so the mora resumes they sent out, the more likely they were to be hired.Unfortunately, these job seekers were flawed in their thinkingand were generally not getting any hits from their resumes. While its true that you have to be actively applying for jobs in order to get one, its also true that sending a generalized resume out to dozens of openings for which youre only peripherally qualified is a huge waste of time. Job searching is time consuming for everyone, and it can be especially challenging for those who are already working full-time. If you only have three hours per week that you can devote to job searches, chances are that youll fare better spending one hour each on three well-targeted app lications rather than taking 15 minutes each to submit a dozen resumes.Competition is stiff for every single job out there. Just last week I was talking to someone who had received 300 applications for an administrative position. Many of the applicants had graduate degrees but were unable to find work suitable to their advanced qualifications. Faced with that kind of odds, a general resume will almost always go directly into the discard pile. Your challenge as a job seeker is to produce a cover letter and resume that truly stand out to the hiring manager for each job you pursue. The simple truth is that doing this requires spending a significant amount of time on every application you submit.One of the greatest advantages to hiring a professional resume writer is the amount of time it saves you in your job search. A skilled writer will spend some time learning about who you are as a person and a candidate. He will then create documents that require minimal changes each time you appl y for a job. By hiring a professional, youre better able to play the numbers game by submitting a greater number of high quality applications as a result, you make the best use of your valuable time. Its the quality of your job applicationsnot the quantitythat will ultimately get you hired.How does your resume match up?Jessica Holbrook Hernandez is an expert resume writer, career and personal branding strategist, author, speaker and President/CEO of Great Resumes Fast. She creates high-impact, best-in-class, resumes and cover letters that transform job searches into interviews and ultimately job offers. For more information about professional resume writing or to read more career and job search related articles visit http//www.greatresumesfast.com or call 1.800.991.5187.

7 Lessons We Can Learn From Power Couples About Handling Conflict

7 Lessons We Can Learn From Power Couples About Handling Conflict Though arguments can feel like the end of the world, theyre actually both inevitable and, arguably, healthy in relationships. So long as your partner and you both handle the conflict maturely. Thats because difficult but constructive conversations can lead to growth and ultimately change for the better.But how do you communicate effectively with your partner when youre upset or angry? Here are seven ways power couples approach arguments.1. They practice active listening.They actually listen mindfully to one anotlageherbei so that they truly hear what the other is saying. They dont just take their partners words at face value either rather, they look for bigger meanings and dive into deeper depth with one another. This way, they can address their issues at their core, rather than just having surface-level conversations and sticking a bandaid on whatever it is thats affecting their relationship.2. They dont point fingers .They never point fingers at one another. Rather than saying You did this, they say, I feel this way. For example, maybe they feel like their partner belittled them. Instead of saying You belittled me, they might say, I feel belittled in this situation. In other words, they take ownership of their emotions rather than placing blame on their partner. This way, their partner can listen mora empathetically instead of becoming defensive and going tit for tat.3. They show empathy via body language.Research suggests that, when partners mirror each others body language, they establish rapport and empathy with one another. Thats because, when one partner uses the others words, posture and gestures, it can help that partner to truly understand the other, as well make the other partner feel validated. So power couples make sure to not only communicate with words, but also with nonverbal cues.4. They dont speak or act out of anger.Power couples seldom speak or act out of anger. Of course, were all only human and, sometimes, we all say things that we dont mean. But partners in a healthy relationship do their best to think before they speak or act. This rumination time, even if its only a few moments, helps them to articulate their feelings well and express their concerns in a more digestible way for their partner to better understand.5. They set aside time to give the conversation their undivided attention.According to a study from Brigham Young University, when couples argue and say their apologies over text, theyre a lot less happy in their relationships than those that make the effort to communicate in person. Power couples, therefore, set aside time to give the necessary conversation their undivided, attention. Of course, the conversation might be a difficult one, but thats why its that much more important to sit together devoid of distractions.6. They never go to sleep angry with one another.Power couples know that its best to never go to sleep angry. So they try to talk about their issues before the call it a day never letting anything linger. Of course, some conflicts take time to resolve and that means that couples cant always fix everything before bedtime. But power couples do agree to make more progress the next day, and they go to sleep on a good foot, never forgetting to let each other know how appreciated and loved they still, of course, are.7. They move on.Holding grudges does nobody any good. So power couples dont bring up the past rather, they stay present in the moment and tackle the current issue at hand. They understand that its best not to bring up incidents for which theyve already forgiven. Whats in the past is in the past, and they leave it there.--AnnaMarie Houlis is a feminist, a freelance journalist and an adventure aficionado with an affinity for impulsive solo travel. She spends her days writing about womens empowerment from around the world. You can follow her work on her blog, HerReport.org, and follow her journeys on Instagram her_report,Twitterherreport and Facebook.

6 Reasons to Quit Your Job Today

6 Reasons to Quit Your Job Today If you dread going to work, youre not alone. In fact, only 15 percent of workers around the world are engaged at work, according to Gallup.What gives? Why do so many people suffer through jobs they dont like all that much instead of jumping ship?It doesnt have to be that way. Theres always something better out there. If any of these five things is happening to you, its time to quit today. 1. You Are Having Constant Negative, Stressful ThoughtsIf youve started to have self-destructive thoughts because of your job, its time to quit. It will only get worse if you stay in your organization. Be brave.Make a plan of action. Start by setting out a realistic timeline for example, I will have a new job two months from now. Next, determine the steps you will use to get there. I love usingsticky notes, because I can scatter my thoughts all over the schreibstube wall and then organized them based on importance and sense of urgenc y. 2. You Hate Your BossAs many as one in five workers hates their boss, according to one study. If youre one of them, you should knowyour supervisor is not likely to go away anytime soon. That means its up to you to change the situation by finding another job. Hand in your resignation letter today, and youll feel a huge sense of relief. 3. You Hate Your CoworkersYou may becool with your boss, but if you hate your coworkers, youre still in for trouble. Maybe youve tried your best to fit in and even talked to your boss about it, who stepped in but couldnt fix the problem.If thissounds like your case,youre working in a toxic environment. Toxic environments dont change without serious interventions from company leadership. Instead of waiting around for that to happen, your best bet is to get out today.Find a better job with a better company culture and work environment. Connect with people who work at your target employers and start meaningful conversations about the environments they work in. Askif they could see you fitting in and thriving in those environments. 4. Your Manager Ignores YouYoure shouting, but nobodys listening. Sound familiar?You should work in an organization where your bosses and coworkers respect you and take your opinions to heart. Youshould feel valued and respected by your managers and leaders, not neglected.Before you jump ship, find a company where you will get the kind of validation you seek. Glassdoor is a great resource for learning aboutcompany cultures, as the reviews all come from real-life employees. 5. Your Job Is BoringThirty-three percent of people are bored at work.Few people enjoy their jobs all the time, but if youfind your work to be seriously and consistently boring, its time tofind a new challenge.Perhaps youre just too good at what you do and youve outgrown your role. Maybe youre sick of the everyday grind. Whatever the reason,you need a job that will excite you again.Explore emerging technologies and new products. Find new applications for existing products. Look for anything that seems like it will allow you to be more creative and engaged at work.6. Your Personal Relationships Are SufferingIf your job is starting to interfere with your personal relationships,know that its not worth it.Dont sacrificeyour loved ones for a job. Instead, find another job that allows you more time with your family, whether that means a shorter commute orfewer required business trips. Dowhatever it takes.I know its always tough to leave a job, even one you hate, and you cant always just quit on a whim. You have bills to pay and food to put on the table.Still, have the power to turn things around, and you should use it when you can. Never feel like you have to stay in a job thats hurting you.Nader Mowlaeeis an engineering career coach and recruiter who is motivated by building confidence in engineers.

Teacher Interview Questions About Technology

Teacher Interview Questions About TechnologyTeacher Interview Questions About TechnologyWhen you areapplying for a teaching position, a typical job interview question is, How have you used, or how will you use, technology in the classroom? With all of the new forms of technology available, schools are eager to incorporate it into their classrooms whenever possible. Its important to assure your interviewer that you are familiar with and enthusiastic about using available technology. In addition, note that you are always looking to research new technologies to implement in your classroom, as they become available. Make a List of Technology You Have Used in the Classroom or at School Review your past five years at work. Which technologies did you use and how did you use them? Platforms Tablets, desktop computers, laptop computers, mobile devices.Software Software packages (such as Microsoft Office), programs, apps.Display Devices Smart boards, video displays.Video Cameras, video rec orders, video editing devices, and applications.Audio Microphones, speakers, mixers, amplifiers, recording devices, audio editing devices, and applications. What Technology Do You Use at Home? Discuss how you use technology at home and in your personal life. What social media do you use? Do you use a fitness tracker? Are there apps or games you enjoy? How might familiarity with these translate into future technology in the classroom? If your previous schools had little technology in the classroom, showing that you use it at home can be a positive response. Did you teach your children, spouse, parents, or grandparents how to use technology? What Technology Did You Use at Non-Classroom Jobs? Be able to discuss how you used computers and other technology in jobs that were not in education. You may have used tablets and mobile devices in paid or volunteer work. Have examples of how you found them useful for performing the jobs or how you coached co-workers in using them. Prov ide Examples of Technology You Have Used Provide the interviewer with specific examples of what technologies you have used in the past I was lucky to have one of the first Smart Boards in my classroom. The children were immediately engaged and eager to explore the possibilities being offered. We learned together just what an amazing teaching tool it could be.We used tablets in my belastung class and the students used apps to enhance their lessons.I taught a class that created a blog and a wiki, with all of the students contributing. Students that were reluctant to speak in class blossomed when they were able to write their entries. One of my classes developed a podcast to share with other students and their families.We connected to guests via Skype for interviews. The students asked questions and received answers from experts who were far away or too busy to come to class in person.I use a personal computer or tablet to develop and organize my lesson plans and to calculate final gr ades. Be Prepared to Talk about Social Media and Internet Safety Policies The use of social media both by students and by teachers is a charged issue with many educators. While you should be prepared, as a teacher, to demonstrate your command of social media sites like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, you also need to make sure that your use of these tools is transparent and that theway you present yourself there is above reproach. You should also know and be prepared to discuss your local school boards policies governing Internet use and the safety protocols they have implemented in their public schools. According to theNational Conference of State Legislatures(NCSL), twenty-five states have implemented Internet filtering laws that require publicly funded schools and libraries to instigate policies that prevent minors from accessing obscene, sexually explicit, or otherwise harmful content on the Internet. These laws arose in response to the 2000 Federal Childrens Internet Pr otection Act (CIPA), mandating that schools receiving funds from the federal E-rate program provide Internet filtering of classroom technologies accessed by students. The other significant piece of legislation to be aware of is the 1998 Childrens Online Privacy Protection Act (COPPA), that protected students under 13 from having their personal information collected without the consent of a parent or guardian (which is why social platforms like Facebook require users to be 13 or older). Some school districts have responded to these laws not only by filtering websites, but also by prohibiting social media contact between teachers and students. Thus, you should be aware of your school districts policies before going into the interview. If your district is one of the many that does allow teachers to use social media technologies for teacher-student and student-student discussion, be prepared to discuss what safeguards you would implement to ensure student user safety and privacy in acce ssing whatever class blogs or social media pages you set up and administer.