7 Lessons We Can Learn From Power Couples About Handling Conflict

7 Lessons We Can Learn From Power Couples About Handling Conflict Though arguments can feel like the end of the world, theyre actually both inevitable and, arguably, healthy in relationships. So long as your partner and you both handle the conflict maturely. Thats because difficult but constructive conversations can lead to growth and ultimately change for the better.But how do you communicate effectively with your partner when youre upset or angry? Here are seven ways power couples approach arguments.1. They practice active listening.They actually listen mindfully to one anotlageherbei so that they truly hear what the other is saying. They dont just take their partners words at face value either rather, they look for bigger meanings and dive into deeper depth with one another. This way, they can address their issues at their core, rather than just having surface-level conversations and sticking a bandaid on whatever it is thats affecting their relationship.2. They dont point fingers .They never point fingers at one another. Rather than saying You did this, they say, I feel this way. For example, maybe they feel like their partner belittled them. Instead of saying You belittled me, they might say, I feel belittled in this situation. In other words, they take ownership of their emotions rather than placing blame on their partner. This way, their partner can listen mora empathetically instead of becoming defensive and going tit for tat.3. They show empathy via body language.Research suggests that, when partners mirror each others body language, they establish rapport and empathy with one another. Thats because, when one partner uses the others words, posture and gestures, it can help that partner to truly understand the other, as well make the other partner feel validated. So power couples make sure to not only communicate with words, but also with nonverbal cues.4. They dont speak or act out of anger.Power couples seldom speak or act out of anger. Of course, were all only human and, sometimes, we all say things that we dont mean. But partners in a healthy relationship do their best to think before they speak or act. This rumination time, even if its only a few moments, helps them to articulate their feelings well and express their concerns in a more digestible way for their partner to better understand.5. They set aside time to give the conversation their undivided attention.According to a study from Brigham Young University, when couples argue and say their apologies over text, theyre a lot less happy in their relationships than those that make the effort to communicate in person. Power couples, therefore, set aside time to give the necessary conversation their undivided, attention. Of course, the conversation might be a difficult one, but thats why its that much more important to sit together devoid of distractions.6. They never go to sleep angry with one another.Power couples know that its best to never go to sleep angry. So they try to talk about their issues before the call it a day never letting anything linger. Of course, some conflicts take time to resolve and that means that couples cant always fix everything before bedtime. But power couples do agree to make more progress the next day, and they go to sleep on a good foot, never forgetting to let each other know how appreciated and loved they still, of course, are.7. They move on.Holding grudges does nobody any good. So power couples dont bring up the past rather, they stay present in the moment and tackle the current issue at hand. They understand that its best not to bring up incidents for which theyve already forgiven. Whats in the past is in the past, and they leave it there.--AnnaMarie Houlis is a feminist, a freelance journalist and an adventure aficionado with an affinity for impulsive solo travel. She spends her days writing about womens empowerment from around the world. You can follow her work on her blog, HerReport.org, and follow her journeys on Instagram her_report,Twitterherreport and Facebook.